Scripture: Then the mother of Zebedee’s sons came to Jesus with her sons and, kneeling down, asked a favor of him. Matthew 20:20
Observation: This might be one of the more confusing ways of 'identifying' someone in the bible. Besides Jesus, who is this verse about, and who is speaking? Those people are the NOT named! So, naming the actors ...
-- Zebedee (named) is a man who isn't even there
-- His sons (referenced) are James and John
-- Their mom (speaking) is Solome
Here's the deal about who all these individuals REALLY are. First, James and John - for whom the appeal is being made to sit at Jesus' right and left hand in heaven - are two of the three top leaders of the disciples. Along with Peter, they witnessed the transfiguration. After Jesus' resurrection, John and Peter will perform great miracles together, and James will be considered the leader of the church in Jerusalem and its the second martyr. Second, scholars mostly agree that Solome is Mary's sister. This makes her one of the few blood-relatives of Jesus (his aunt), and someone who likely had a place of respect in Jesus' life as he grew up. Lastly, Zebedee is therefore Jesus' uncle and father to James and John. He is referred to several times though he does not follow Jesus. He runs the family fishing business, and some believe (myself included) that he is the benefactor of Jesus' ministry, providing the financial resources needed to support not just Jesus and his family, but a significant percentage of the costs associated with this group of perhaps 100+ total people who follow Jesus from town to town.
Here's the point. James and John aren't just asking to receive a place of honor, they are leveraging every sliver of influence anyone could have over Jesus to make the request. The request is made by someone who is probably the second-most influential woman in Jesus entire collective of followers, and done so 'in the name of' the man who is fully funding Jesus' work. The implication is that answering "no" could place at risk the financial backing of the ministry, and might create an emotional rift within the followers by hurting a well-respected woman's feelings.
Application: Two days ago was my wife's last day of work, as she retires from being a pastor at our church. I'm so proud of her! However, this verse reminds me of things I've seen good members of the church try to 'pull' over the years. There are those who tithe faithfully, then make formal complaints to the pastor because they want things done a certain way. There are those who give one large gift "restricted" to do something that the church doesn't do, thus tying them to either do so with this money, or give the money back. There are those who serve well in certain visible ministries, then when they get their feelings hurt over a change the pastor wants in that ministry they leave the church while spreading rumors and lies and ill-will about the pastor. There are even those elevated to the position of "pastor" who then act to tear the church apart.
I just did the math, and over the last 14 years - when the head pastor arrived - our church has had 23 people on paid staff (+/- 1) with a "pastor" title. During that first year, two of them were the head pastor and my wife. Most left following a specific pattern:
1) They wanted to make a change to the church strategy, mission, work.
2) They were told "no".
3) They took it upon themselves as a "pastor/leader" to do it anyway.
4) They were corrected.
5) They got angry and left (either quit or were fired) and while doing so they publicly complained and lied about other pastors, often convincing some attendees to leave angrily too.
It has been hard to watch. And obviously, James and John could have done exactly this. Whether they did so knowingly or not, they were leveraging influence of both position and relationship to try to change a church (or in this case, heavenly) plan or strategy. They could have stormed off, pulled 'funding', divided Jesus' own family, and likely convinced some long-term followers to leave.
Jesus' response should be a model for all pastors ... he simply says "that is God's decision, and I am confident he says 'no'." Jesus KNEW the answer was 'no' because HE will sit at God's right hand, therefore no one can sit next to him. However, he didn't just say 'no', and neither did he explain the 'why' for not saying 'yes' ... he just said God has other plans, then addressed the fallout over the ask.
We are all blessed that James and John accepted this response, for that too is an act of strong faith.
Prayer: Lord, my wife is an amazing and faithful woman. Her work has not been easy over the years, but your blessings and rewards have been generous and loving and overflowing. May your hand be upon her during this transition, and may your love never be removed from her anointing. Amen.